She Will Not Call me Back. What Should I Do?

12:22 and this female still hasn't called!

She will not call me back. What should I do?

“Hey. This is Jennifer. I am unable to get to my phone right now. Please leave a message and I will call you back.”

Yeah. Right.

Look player, there is a fundamental problem lurking somewhere beneath the fray for this woman to rarely answer her phone, call back sporadically, or completely ignore your calls, altogether. Quite frankly, what we have here is a failure to communicate and the following steps are contingent upon your assessment of the woman’s interest level.

Men must accurately gauge the difference between women that simply are not interested from those that are merely upping the ante with gamesmanship for the typical boy meets girl mating dance. The suitor may have also painted himself into a corner as a “Nice Guy” or even laid the foundation to build his very own dog house with the target female.

This guide details what to do when a woman will not call you back at various levels.

My Wife – Girlfriend will not Call me Back. What Should I do?

This scenario does not equate to putting your woman under virtual house arrest by using her cell phone as a tracking device. This lack of respect translates into your wife or girlfriend being almost nearly unreachable during particular time periods, or completely vanishing for 24 hours or more – with no explanation.  

You have got serious problems.

Your own woman does not want to talk to you?

Proceed by calmly introducing an emergency scenario in which you are stranded, wrongly jailed, or laid up at Stroger Hospital – unable to reach the woman of your life within a timely manner. If your significant other is not scared stiff and refuses to correct the lack of return calls immediately – this relationship has even more serious problems than we both thought.

Perhaps the female is out cheating on you. Maybe she just doesn’t care.

Proceed to up the ante by getting a life because clinginess is a huge turn off to anybody.

Leave if the issue persists.

My Friend with Benefits will not Call me Back. What Should I do?

Dude.

Why are you wasting your time calling this Cougar / Married Woman / Friend with Benefits female during business hours? You are merely a hired gun and your sole purpose is to deliver the goods for whatever reason. She may be unavailable to talk late at night because she is spending cuddle time with her number one man and family. She may also refuse to engage in wistful pillow talk over the phone with another wide-eyed schmuck that could easily break up her “happy” home.

There are some situations where the female will rebuke the risks of forging any emotional attachment.

At this point, you must make the call.

Know your boy-toy role. This means that all attempts to reach this woman are specifically to set up a meet. Please cut the “getting to know you” fluffery. She already has plenty of acquaintances in place for all of that.

Stand up or stand down.

On the flip side, this woman may have long grown tired of toiling as a “special friend” or sidepiece without making things “official.” At this point of no return, I suggest that you play it cool and continue calling as if nothing were amiss. Do not look weak and instigate the “where is this going?” spiel.

She is emotionally in limbo and aggressively broaching the subject to her before she is ready to deal with these feelings may very well place her into the aforementioned category of disinterested girlfriend. Besides, she has already been acting flaky and “less” is indeed “more” at this point.

Space your call pattern further and further apart towards one-week intervals for the next thirty days before giving up. Retreat until she either calls months later or you cross her path at random. Either way, she must be acknowledged as the party that dropped the communication ball and should be obligated to declare her intentions with a sit down heart to heart.

Still, be resigned to the fact that you may never see or hear from this woman again.

Now. Go find a female that is more so agreeable towards your relationship needs.   

She Gave me her Phone Number but now She Will Not Call me Back. What Should I do?

Where did you go wrong?

Obviously, you have not created a level of excitement worthy enough for this female to anxiously await your call. This contrary predicament is often the function of a weak approach, boring voice messages, and ultimately timing. You just may have picked the wrong one.

Maybe she has decided to work things out with her off and on boyfriend while you were sitting there looking stupid. Maybe she was turned off by the fact that you called her the next day on Saturday evening while you were firing up Madden and looking like a total Lame-O.

Don’t you know anything about women?

Better your chances by waiting a few days to call. Preferably, telephone her on the evenings from Sunday to Wednesday. This way, you can operate as a man about town that is obviously booked solid during peak time social hour and still be well positioned to score a date with this female for the weekend.

The entire purpose of this first phone call is to set up face time.

Of course, I remain absolutely convinced that some women randomly exchange numbers with any fool simply to garner attention. Maybe this female actually gets off upon the male fawn fest of simpletons throwing themselves at her and engaging in this twisted Battle Royale under the pretense crumbs of affection. Avoid these trifling attention mongerers at all costs.

Did you even properly screen this female at the point of approach?

Where is she from? Is she single? Does she have girlfriends?

If she is indeed, unattached, and can barely get along with other women and all of her “friends” are guys – you are in big trouble, Mister! In all likelihood, she is a self-centered limelight seeker and the only groups of individuals capable of putting up with her draining antics are desperate men, close family, and Toby, her pet cat.

Yes, the purpose of the initial approach is threefold: build interest, qualify, and introduce vague plans for the next encounter.

Remember, you were supposed to get the scouting report detailing the area in which she lives and a rough outline of her schedule from the gate. Still, sticking to the following script may save face and the situation:

“Hey. I know this (cool place) by (where the girl lives or where you met her). I will be (doing something cool) out there on (evening time when you know she is in the area or day of the week if you are uncertain of her availability) and I would love for you to drop by and hang out.”

Bingo.

Do you see how sweet we just played it?

Now, you have options.

Never mind the fact that you were actually poised for yet another night of Xbox 360. In one fell swoop; you have now transformed into a manly, distinguished socialite that is thoughtful enough to ask for her company. Yes, you will be within close range of her location checking out an art exhibit, shooting ball with the guys, or playing pool with Jay Cutler at the very same time that she “happens” to be home!

Whatever. Just make sure that you are doing something that does not appear as smokescreen to get a date. No, we would never stoop so low…

Of course, there is no pressure on this female to deal with yet another greasy suitor that cannot take a hint. This is an open invitation that can go either way and her designs will be effectively exposed. Any reasonably interested woman will return this phone call and negotiate a good time to meet.

Stay California Cool on the phone – but be certain to put out flirtatious vibes on Date Night. If not, you will run the risk of stalling beneath the shackles of the wretched friend zone. 

She still didn’t call you back?

Find a better-looking woman.